Build Your Magic
My mom is magical—no joke. The moment she says she wants something, it shows up. Growing up, I couldn’t wrap my head around it. She’d wish for a specific top that was sold out everywhere, and somehow it would appear. She’d want an earlier flight home even though it was fully booked, and suddenly she’d be on it. And when she prayed for bigger things, like family health or mental peace during a tough time, those would come, too.
Meanwhile, I felt like anything I asked for from the universe would be repelled at ten times the speed. I started asking myself why. Why did it seem that whenever I put something on my vision board, it didn’t happen, yet my mom or my friends could get what they wanted instantly?
After some deep reflection—and being brutally honest with myself—I realized the problem: I don’t truly believe that what I ask for will happen. Instead of visualizing a goal and then moving on while working toward it, I obsess over it. If I really want a new job, all I do is think about it. When will it happen? Wait, will it happen at all? If I want to learn a new skill, rather than actually practicing it, I just wait for things to magically change.
But that’s not how any of these tools work. Nothing in life is instant. I noticed that my mom approaches her goals differently. She tells herself she wants something, decides she will do it, and then lets go. She doesn’t dwell on the outcome; she focuses on the tangible steps she can take to get there.
I, on the other hand, fixate on the goal itself. I worry whether it’ll happen, then sink into negativity—Nothing good ever happens, I’ll never achieve it. How can I expect my goals to come to fruition if I spend all my energy wondering if they’ll happen instead of actually working on them?
What’s the worst that can happen? Maybe you don’t accomplish all of the visions you set for the year. But at least you tried—and no progress is ever wasted. If you stay locked in negative thought patterns, you’ll attract more negativity. Tell yourself every day that your dream life isn’t coming, and guess what? It won’t.
So, what if you change the narrative? Instead of asking when, act like it’s happening now. I’ve always struggled with the “law of assumption,” but its core principle is crucial: If you act like the person you want to become, you will become that person. As Mel Robbins once said, “If you act like the person you want to be, you’ll eventually become them.”
A Simple Exercise
- Pick 1–2 Goals: Don’t overcomplicate it. Sometimes we try to change everything at once and end up spinning our wheels.
- Visualize Success: Imagine what it will look like when you achieve these goals.
- List Tangible Actions: Write down specific steps you can take to make these goals happen.
- Let Go of the Outcome: Don’t obsess over the final result. Focus on showing up and doing the work every day.
- Give It 6 Months: Commit to these actions daily for the next half-year. Watch how your life transforms when you constantly invest in yourself. You will become magical as well.