Build Your Outfits

I recently visited my older sister in Seattle for three days and packed only two sweatsuits, plus a pair of baggy jeans and a sweater I disliked. For someone who loves clothes and dressing up, this was a huge red flag. Don’t get me wrong—I enjoy comfy outfits, too. But back in college, choosing an outfit to wear to class or the library was something I actually looked forward to. It wasn’t about impressing anyone; I just found the process of pairing pieces together fun.

Confidence in Clothing

I also noticed that on days when I wore a cute outfit, I walked around with more confidence. I was more likely to start conversations, say yes to spontaneous plans, and even stay longer in study sessions. However, since graduating and starting my job, I’ve barely dressed up at all. Even when I go to nice dinners, I find myself trying to hide my body. I can’t remember the last time I felt excited about what I was wearing—good for my wallet, maybe, but terrible for my self-esteem.

The Deeper Issue

Is this really a crisis about sweatpants? Of course not. It’s a wake-up call that I’ve stopped taking steps to love myself and show up as my best self. During my Seattle trip, I found myself hiding from the world. If there was any chance of running into someone I knew, I’d refuse to go. And now, looking back, I regret it. Why was I so scared of being seen?

The truth is I haven’t felt confident or like myself for a while. By the end of last year, I wasn’t taking care of my physical or mental health. The consequences hit hard: I started hating how I looked and felt, so I hid from the world.

Recommitment to Self-Care

On the flight home, I promised myself one thing: start taking care of your health and dress up again. The next time I feel the urge to hide my body, I’ll fight it. I’m going to invest in a few outfits I’m genuinely excited about. More importantly, I’m going to pour my energy into feeling my best—waking up early, writing in a gratitude journal, moving my body, staying away from endless scrolling, and engaging in hobbies that make me happy.

I don’t want to dread leaving my apartment or waste time wishing I felt differently. Instead of waiting for a miraculous change, I’m taking small steps, one day at a time. I’ve already started daily movement and healthy eating—not to look a certain way, but because I feel better when I do. I also accept that it won’t happen overnight, and that’s okay. My only job is to show up every day.

One Step at a Time

The next time someone invites me out, I’m going. And I’m going in a new, cute outfit, with my hair done and maybe even a little makeup. Because here’s the thing: you have to show up for yourself. Healthy habits aren’t just about looking good; they’re about caring for yourself so you can step into the world with confidence.

Your Turn

Pick one thing to do this month for your mental and physical well-being—whether that’s dressing up for an outing, scheduling a workout, or setting aside time to journal. One day at a time, you’ll inch closer to truly loving yourself again and stepping out as your best self. And promise me that the next time someone invites you somewhere, you are going to say yes. And wear that cute outfit.